How To Rebuild Your Self-Esteem After A Divorce
by Tycoon2k
Your self-esteem - what you think of yourself in relation to
other people - is the basic secret of your success or failure in
life.
It's really as simple as that... Think well of yourself, and
you'll do well. Think disparagingly of yourself, and you'll
probably not do very well at all .
Regardless of whether you're the perpetrator or the victim, the
experience of going through a divorce is going to damage your
self-esteem. In fact, the blow dealt to one's self-esteem by
divorce is lethal enough to drive anyone to the brink of
insanity.
What you must do is think of your divorce - the end of your
marriage - as you would the death of a loved one. Basically,
that's what it is!
There is a period of burial or of letting go; a period of
feeling guilty because you didn't do or say all the things you
might have; a period of anger because it didn't work out the way
you dreamed it would; a period of reconciliation in which you
think maybe if you try again, it'll all work out; and finally, a
period of acceptance.
Everyone who has ever been through a divorce or is still
recovering from one, has either lived through each of these
"recovery stages," or is still in one of them. It's all normal,
and a part of the necessary healing that has to take place
before you are able to recognize and enjoy happiness again.
Even so, the most important and the very first thing you must do
following the break-up of any kind of relationship, is to get
started on the rebuilding of your self-esteem.
This means that you have to accept the fact that neither you or
anyone else is perfect - determine that you will learn from your
mistakes - and that you will become whatever it is you aspire to
be...
Immediately, do something that makes you feel good - something
you've been wanting to do for some time - or always wanted to
do. This could be getting a new hair-do, buying a new suit,
enrolling in a special self-improvement course, starting a
business, or even taking an extended vacation.
You musn't lock yourself in your house or apartment. You musn't
be afraid to get out and associate with people. You musn't stop
wanting to enjoy life!
You may have to force yourself, but you must "forget" about
mourning your loss and continue on with your life. You must go
on with your life with a stronger determination than ever, to be
the person you want to be. Don't "beat yourself over the head"
with feelings of guilt. Get rid of your anger as quickly as
possible. Forget about the past. Get on with the rest of your
life without delay!
Revitalize those ambitions that have been "hidden away" in the
back of your mind, and consider this particular time in your
life as an opportunity for a new start. Do some introspection
relative to what it is you want out of life; reorganize your
time and efforts to attain those objectives; and go for it with
all you've got!
After all has been said and done, the kind of person you are and
how you get along in the world you live in, is up to you. The
most powerful assistance for attaining happiness anyone has, is
in what he or she says, feels, and believes about himself or
herself. When things are not quite right, the first thing that
needs to be changed is your disposition - your attitude,
feelings towards other people, and your emotional responses.
Think about your facial expressions and the tone of your voice
when you're talking with other people. Being aware of these
things with consideration towards other people, will "bring you
out of your-self" and allow other people to want to know more
about you.
You have to forget about, and let go of, the past. Anything and
everything that happened yesterday is long gone and cannot be
changed. You have the rest of your life from this moment on, to
achieve love - happiness - fame and fortune.
Whatever it is you want in life can be yours. All that's
necessary to make any dream come true is a true understanding of
what you want, and determination on your part to make it all
happen according to your plan. Think about what you want -
prepare yourself to get it - focus your efforts on the
fulfillment of your ambitions - and there's nothing that can
stop you from total realization!
So, the first thing relative to rebuilding one's self-esteem -
following a divorce, or the loss of a loved one by any
circumstances - is to understand why you hurt, and what is
necessary in order to be happy again. It essential that you
think of YOURSELF in terms of the kind of life you want for
yourself; know that you can have it all because you've laid the
foundation, done your homework, and you're on a positive road
towards achievement; and then get busy "making tracks" in that
direction.
In simple terms - it hurts, but you're not dead - you're only
wasting time thinking about or rehashing the past because
there's no way anything that happened yesterday or the day
before can be changed - so quickly pick up the pieces, and get
on with your life!
Wanting to "get well," and/or to "make something out of your
life," is half the battle!
How To Rebuild Your Self-Esteem After A Divorce
by Tycoon2k
Friday, February 02, 2007
Saturday, January 20, 2007
How And Where To Meet Eligible Women
How And Where To Meet Eligible Women
by Tycoon2k Webmaster
How And Where To Meet Eligible Women
A lot of guys will undoubtedly dispute this, but really - there
are more eligible women running around loose today than there
are men! In fact, all you've got to do to prove it to yourself
is to take a look at the latest census figures relative to the
number of men versus women in this country.
We're talking about unmarried women between the ages of 18 and
60... Believe it! There are more women than men available! In
other words, there's at least one woman for every man that's
looking for a woman.
It's a part of human nature for people to want to belong to
someone of the opposite sex, and to have someone of the opposite
sex they even think of as belonging to them. The human
equilibrium cannot operate for long without inner-action with
other people, and for total health/adjustment in the world we
live in, not without inner-action with someone of the opposite
sex.
Perhaps because of the "women's liberation movement", the recent
recessions and high unemployment problems, the way the current
generation was brought up expecting everything all at once, the
increasing dependence upon drugs to give us pep or sooth our
nerves, and at least a dozen other reasons - the number of women
ending their marriages with divorce are out of hand... Indeed,
the latest figures on the number of divorces filed within the
past six months show that one out of every two marriages are
falling apart!
This is putting a lot of women in the marketplace, all of them
looking for men. They may claim that they "hate" men and that
they don't care if they ever see, talk to, or associate with men
again - but that's all "madness" relative to their divorces. At
the bottom line, every woman that has ever walked the face of
this old earth has or does want a man to call her own!
So, if you're a man and you're out looking for a woman. - One of
the first things you should get straight in your own mind is
what do you want a woman for, how long do you want her, and from
there, what kind of woman will it take to satisfy your needs
Your needs will vary with your moods, your financial situation,
and your own lifestyle or mental adjustment to the world around
you.
Thus, when you meet an eligible woman that you think can satisfy
your needs, it would behove you first to do a little bit
"analytical reading" pertaining to her needs for a man. The more
you can "find out" what she's looking for, and satisfy her
needs, the easier it'll be for you to pick one that can satisfy
your needs.
In other words, if she's on a "heavy duty trip" into women's
lib, and you want someone to move in with you to wash the dishes
and make your bed, you're liable to be wasting your time even
attempting to talk to this woman. On the other hand, if she's
just recovering from a divorce and seems to be trying to prove
to the world that she's the sexiest and best lover to come down
the pike in a month of Sundays, and you're out looking for a one
night stand, then this is probably the woman you should be
trying to pick up on.
What we're advocating and advising is simply this: The more, and
faster you can "read'' what a woman is looking for, the faster
and easier it's going to be for you meet the kinds of women
you're looking for... For sure though, it's up to you to
converse and/or appeal to any woman's wants if you want to make
any headway with her.
About meeting women, introducing yourself and becoming
acquainted... You've got to understand, and believe it for a
fact, that in this day and age, most women are almost always
looking for an eligible man...
Thus, when you see a woman that appeals to you at the bus stop,
don't be afraid to say hello to her and attempt to strike up
some sort of conversation. Women very rarely bite, and in these
times, women are not prone to put a man down for being friendly.
If you're looking for a woman, you've got to notice them
anywhere and wherever you see them - and then, open your mouth -
let them know that you'd like to get to know them!
The easiest and surest way of meeting eligible women is through
the social activities of your local "singles" clubs, such as
Parents Without Partners, Singles International, and Servetus.
Most such groups sponsor regular dances, dinner parties, rap
sessions, and any number of other activities designed to bring
divorced and/or single people together.
Lonely Hearts Correspondence Clubs are okay, but in many of them
you'll find the memberships inundated by women trying to sell
you something or with some sort of designs to deal you out of
your money. Then too, meeting someone via correspondence -
learning to love them as a result of what they write in their
letters to you - is sometimes disappointing and a hard situation
to get out of, when you finally do meet in person.
Most of the Date-A-Mate services are okay, particularly those
that employ video tape interviews, but the prices you pay for
their introductions are outlandish. Generally, the success rate
of these services - that of matching you with a woman that you
end up marrying, and staying married to her - is less than
10-percent. Some of them are just glorified "dating or escort"
services.
Attending church in search of an eligible woman sometimes works
out - especially if the church sponsors dances, parties and
group outings - but in many instances, you'll find that these
church-going singles are either religious fanatics or neurotics.
The religious fanatic is a woman to run away from, as far as and
as fast as you can, unless you're on a heavy duty religious trip
yourself. As for the neurotics, they're generally hung-up with
guilt, anger, or martyrdom from previous experiences with men.
With a "swinging" personality, you can generally score well in
the bars and taverns. The thing is, you have to "find" the bars
or taverns that are frequented by the age group and kind of
women that meet your needs.
You'll find that the "higher class" women frequent the "motor
inn" and hotel bars. About all you have to do is drop by and
join in all the action when there's a convention or ing of
people from out of town in one of these places. It's then that
you'll find many of the "local eligibles" out on the town, plus
of course a lot of women from out of town who are looking for
men. In this kind of situation, most of the women are easy to
pick up on, and most of them are in no big hurry to make any
real commitments.
To find the action - where there's sure to be lots of eligible
women looking for men - look in your local paper... Look for
advertisements announcing square dances, neighborhood picnics,
travel tours, and of course, festivals or similar special
events. When you go to one of these activities, you've got to
mingle with people there - keep your eyes open for a woman that
may be the one you're looking for - and then, do your thing to
become acquainted with her. Remember, once you spot a woman
you'd like to get to know, it's all up to you whether you become
acquainted or let her slip through your fingers.
Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible women is
the evening classes at your local colleges. If you're not
familiar with their services, just give the college office a
call and ask them to put you on their mailing list for bulletins
and notices of up-coming classes being offered. Most colleges
are now offering any number of seminars, classes and even short
courses designed to help people rebuilding their lives after a
divorce. These sessions are almost always "filled to capacity"
with the majority of those attending, recently divorced women!
By the same token, for whatever reason, most divorced women
return to college to either finish their education or to take
some special course that will give them some sort of edge in
finding work. Check it out for yourself - it's almost a
phenomena the way divorced women are flocking back to college.
Finally, and if you have the time for it, you'll find an
unlimited supply of eligible women in the cafeterias of just
about any large office building, particularly government office
buildings. What you do is drop in and have lunch - become a
regular - look the scene over and "reach out" for one that
appeals to you.
Remember, spotting a woman you'd like to have is no big deal -
The important thing is forget your shyness, inhibitions, and
fears of rejections - Just walk right up to her and say
something like: Hello, I think I'd like to get to know you -
could we talk for a minute or too?
Try it! You'll be pleasantly surprised with the results! After
all, the women are wanting to meet you just as badly as you want
to meet them!
How And Where To Meet Eligible Women
by Tycoon2k Webmaster
Mister Linker
1000000 Links
by Tycoon2k Webmaster
How And Where To Meet Eligible Women
A lot of guys will undoubtedly dispute this, but really - there
are more eligible women running around loose today than there
are men! In fact, all you've got to do to prove it to yourself
is to take a look at the latest census figures relative to the
number of men versus women in this country.
We're talking about unmarried women between the ages of 18 and
60... Believe it! There are more women than men available! In
other words, there's at least one woman for every man that's
looking for a woman.
It's a part of human nature for people to want to belong to
someone of the opposite sex, and to have someone of the opposite
sex they even think of as belonging to them. The human
equilibrium cannot operate for long without inner-action with
other people, and for total health/adjustment in the world we
live in, not without inner-action with someone of the opposite
sex.
Perhaps because of the "women's liberation movement", the recent
recessions and high unemployment problems, the way the current
generation was brought up expecting everything all at once, the
increasing dependence upon drugs to give us pep or sooth our
nerves, and at least a dozen other reasons - the number of women
ending their marriages with divorce are out of hand... Indeed,
the latest figures on the number of divorces filed within the
past six months show that one out of every two marriages are
falling apart!
This is putting a lot of women in the marketplace, all of them
looking for men. They may claim that they "hate" men and that
they don't care if they ever see, talk to, or associate with men
again - but that's all "madness" relative to their divorces. At
the bottom line, every woman that has ever walked the face of
this old earth has or does want a man to call her own!
So, if you're a man and you're out looking for a woman. - One of
the first things you should get straight in your own mind is
what do you want a woman for, how long do you want her, and from
there, what kind of woman will it take to satisfy your needs
Your needs will vary with your moods, your financial situation,
and your own lifestyle or mental adjustment to the world around
you.
Thus, when you meet an eligible woman that you think can satisfy
your needs, it would behove you first to do a little bit
"analytical reading" pertaining to her needs for a man. The more
you can "find out" what she's looking for, and satisfy her
needs, the easier it'll be for you to pick one that can satisfy
your needs.
In other words, if she's on a "heavy duty trip" into women's
lib, and you want someone to move in with you to wash the dishes
and make your bed, you're liable to be wasting your time even
attempting to talk to this woman. On the other hand, if she's
just recovering from a divorce and seems to be trying to prove
to the world that she's the sexiest and best lover to come down
the pike in a month of Sundays, and you're out looking for a one
night stand, then this is probably the woman you should be
trying to pick up on.
What we're advocating and advising is simply this: The more, and
faster you can "read'' what a woman is looking for, the faster
and easier it's going to be for you meet the kinds of women
you're looking for... For sure though, it's up to you to
converse and/or appeal to any woman's wants if you want to make
any headway with her.
About meeting women, introducing yourself and becoming
acquainted... You've got to understand, and believe it for a
fact, that in this day and age, most women are almost always
looking for an eligible man...
Thus, when you see a woman that appeals to you at the bus stop,
don't be afraid to say hello to her and attempt to strike up
some sort of conversation. Women very rarely bite, and in these
times, women are not prone to put a man down for being friendly.
If you're looking for a woman, you've got to notice them
anywhere and wherever you see them - and then, open your mouth -
let them know that you'd like to get to know them!
The easiest and surest way of meeting eligible women is through
the social activities of your local "singles" clubs, such as
Parents Without Partners, Singles International, and Servetus.
Most such groups sponsor regular dances, dinner parties, rap
sessions, and any number of other activities designed to bring
divorced and/or single people together.
Lonely Hearts Correspondence Clubs are okay, but in many of them
you'll find the memberships inundated by women trying to sell
you something or with some sort of designs to deal you out of
your money. Then too, meeting someone via correspondence -
learning to love them as a result of what they write in their
letters to you - is sometimes disappointing and a hard situation
to get out of, when you finally do meet in person.
Most of the Date-A-Mate services are okay, particularly those
that employ video tape interviews, but the prices you pay for
their introductions are outlandish. Generally, the success rate
of these services - that of matching you with a woman that you
end up marrying, and staying married to her - is less than
10-percent. Some of them are just glorified "dating or escort"
services.
Attending church in search of an eligible woman sometimes works
out - especially if the church sponsors dances, parties and
group outings - but in many instances, you'll find that these
church-going singles are either religious fanatics or neurotics.
The religious fanatic is a woman to run away from, as far as and
as fast as you can, unless you're on a heavy duty religious trip
yourself. As for the neurotics, they're generally hung-up with
guilt, anger, or martyrdom from previous experiences with men.
With a "swinging" personality, you can generally score well in
the bars and taverns. The thing is, you have to "find" the bars
or taverns that are frequented by the age group and kind of
women that meet your needs.
You'll find that the "higher class" women frequent the "motor
inn" and hotel bars. About all you have to do is drop by and
join in all the action when there's a convention or ing of
people from out of town in one of these places. It's then that
you'll find many of the "local eligibles" out on the town, plus
of course a lot of women from out of town who are looking for
men. In this kind of situation, most of the women are easy to
pick up on, and most of them are in no big hurry to make any
real commitments.
To find the action - where there's sure to be lots of eligible
women looking for men - look in your local paper... Look for
advertisements announcing square dances, neighborhood picnics,
travel tours, and of course, festivals or similar special
events. When you go to one of these activities, you've got to
mingle with people there - keep your eyes open for a woman that
may be the one you're looking for - and then, do your thing to
become acquainted with her. Remember, once you spot a woman
you'd like to get to know, it's all up to you whether you become
acquainted or let her slip through your fingers.
Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible women is
the evening classes at your local colleges. If you're not
familiar with their services, just give the college office a
call and ask them to put you on their mailing list for bulletins
and notices of up-coming classes being offered. Most colleges
are now offering any number of seminars, classes and even short
courses designed to help people rebuilding their lives after a
divorce. These sessions are almost always "filled to capacity"
with the majority of those attending, recently divorced women!
By the same token, for whatever reason, most divorced women
return to college to either finish their education or to take
some special course that will give them some sort of edge in
finding work. Check it out for yourself - it's almost a
phenomena the way divorced women are flocking back to college.
Finally, and if you have the time for it, you'll find an
unlimited supply of eligible women in the cafeterias of just
about any large office building, particularly government office
buildings. What you do is drop in and have lunch - become a
regular - look the scene over and "reach out" for one that
appeals to you.
Remember, spotting a woman you'd like to have is no big deal -
The important thing is forget your shyness, inhibitions, and
fears of rejections - Just walk right up to her and say
something like: Hello, I think I'd like to get to know you -
could we talk for a minute or too?
Try it! You'll be pleasantly surprised with the results! After
all, the women are wanting to meet you just as badly as you want
to meet them!
How And Where To Meet Eligible Women
by Tycoon2k Webmaster
Mister Linker
1000000 Links
How And Where To Meet Eligible Men
How And Where To Meet Eligible Men
by Tycoon2k
How And Where To Meet Eligible Men
So you're a woman looking for a man... First off, you have to
"know" what kind of man you're looking for, and then go wherever
it is you'll most likely find that kind of man...
What kind of man are you looking for? It's a new world we live
in, and believe it or not, you can find whatever kind of man it
is you want! If you're looking for a husband, a meal ticket, a
sugar-daddy, a lover, a father, or a companion - there's a man
out there for you. The problem is, of course, to find the man
that has enough of "all the things you want in a man" to satisfy
you.
There are lots of eligible men available, and with just a little
bit of intelligence, there's no honest reason why any woman
wanting a man cannot find the man of her choice. The thing is,
as mentioned already - you've got to know what kind of man you
want, and where you'll most likely find him - and then, reach
for him.
Men are just like women - they want a woman they can belong to,
and call their own. People have to interact with other people in
order to maintain a healthy equilibrium; and men have to
interact with women on a personal basis in order to go on
living. These are undeniable facts relative to the nature of
human beings.
Most men have the same kind of shyness, inhibitions, and fears
of rejection that women have - the only difference being that
the male of our species has been trying to cope with these
feelings in regards to meeting women, a lot longer than women
have in regard to meeting men. But it's a new world - there's a
lot more women out looking for men - and a lot of men seem to be
caught up in their own problems, and unaware of the eligible
women around that might like to become acquainted with them.
Thus, it's now necessary for a woman to make the first move when
she spots a man that interests her and he doesn't make that
first move.
What we're saying is simply this: Nowadays, whenever and
wherever you spot a man that you'd like to get to know, and for
whatever reasons, he doesn't seem to notice you, for sure, you
should make that first move towards becoming acquainted. Say
you're at a dance and you spot a man that interests you, by all
means don't be hesitant to walk over and ask him if he'd like to
dance with you. Or should you be having coffee somewhere and you
spot a special man, simply tell him that you don't like being
alone and would he like to join you.
Really, there's honestly nothing out-of-line or brazen about
spotting a man that interests you, walking up to him, and
telling him you find him appealing enough that you'd like to
find out more about him. Most men will be flattered by your
attentions, and if they are the kind of man you "sized" them up
to be, they'll appreciate your breaking the ice for them. One
other thing to understand - women are almost always "looking
for" men while most men are where they are, doing what they are
doing, for any one of a million different reasons.
In essence, you meet eligible men by frequenting the places
you're most-likely to find the kind of man you want to meet. You
have to make yourself available. Then too, if you spot a man you
think might be one that you'd like to get to know better and he
doesn't make the first move towards the two of you becoming
acquainted, you should make that first move.
It's as simple as that. In most instances, the same fear and
shyness - maybe even embarrassment - you're feeling, is haunting
the man, and unless one of you makes that first move, another
opportunity will have slipped through your fingers. Don't be
afraid to walk right up to a man and tell him: You look as
though you're all alone - do you want to talk for a minute or
two...
We know of some women looking for men, perhaps because of an
inability to just walk up to a man and start talking or maybe
just because they have a flair for innovative approaches to the
idea, have had business cards printed up, and hand them out to
the men they see that look interesting to them. The wording on
the one that most appealed to us was as follows: Hello there...
Please forgive my intrusion, but you strike me as someone I
should know. My name is Mary Anderson, and if you've got a spare
minute or two, you might give me a call at 123-4567...
You've got to have it firmly in your mind, the kind of man you
want to meet. Then you've got to make yourself available in the
kind of places that kind of man is most-likely to frequent.
Most assuredly, when you search for such a man, you should look,
dress, and act according to what you feel will most appeal to
that type of man. All men notice a woman who looks good, so you
should do whatever is necessary to bring out your best features
- a little make-up in the right places, a new hairstyle, a few
figure-flattering clothes - and the kind of conduct that you
feel will appeal to your kind of man.
Now then, the easiest and surest way of meeting eligible men is
through the social activities of your local "singles" club such
as Parents Without Partners, Singles International, and
Servetus. Most such groups sponsor regular dances, dinner
parties, rap sessions, and any number of other activities
designed to bring divorced and/or single people together.
Lonely Hearts Correspondence Clubs are okay, but then.. meeting
someone via correspondence, and learning to love them as result
of what they write in their letters to you, is sometimes
disappointing and a hard situation to get out of when you
finally do meet them face-to-face.
Most of the Date-A-Mate services are okay, particularly those
that employ video tape interviews, but the prices you pay for
their introductions are beyond reason. Generally, the success
rate of these services - that of matching you with a man that
you end marrying, and staying married to him - is less than
10-percent. Some of them are just glorified "dating or escort"
services.
Attending church in search of an eligible man sometimes works
out, especially if the church sponsors dances, parties and group
outings. However, there's not as many eligible men going to
church in search of eligible women these days as there used to
be.
If you have an outgoing personality and enjoy the whole scene,
you can generally find lots of eligible men in the bars and
taverns. The thing is, you have to "find" the bars or taverns
that are frequented by the age group and kind of men that meet
your needs.
You'll find a lot of "more financially secure" men in the better
"motor inn" and hotel bars. About all you have to do is drop by
and join in all the action when there's a convention or
gathering of people from out of town in one of these places.
It's then that you'll find many of the "local eligibles" out on
the town, plus of course a lot of men from out of town who are
looking for women. In this kind of situation, most of the man
will make the first move and once you become acquainted, they
won't be in any big hurry to make any real commitments.
To find the action - where there's sure to be lots of eligible
men - look in your local newspaper... Look for advertisements
announcing square dances, neighborhood picnics, travel tours,
and of course, festivals or similar special events. When you go
to one of these activities, you've got to mingle with the people
there, keep your eyes open for a man that may be the one you're
looking for, and then - do your thing to become acquainted with
him. Once you spot a man you'd like to become acquainted with,
it's basically all up to you whether you do or don't.
Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible men is in
the evening classes at your local colleges. If you're not
familiar with their services, just give the college office a
call and ask them to put you on their mailing list for bulletins
and notices of up-coming classes being offered.
Most colleges are now offering any number of seminars, classes
and even short courses designed to help people rebuilding their
lives after a divorce. These classes are always well-attended,
and those that attend are eligible. One of the best ways of
meeting new friends while improving yourself.
Finally, and by all means, enlist the help of your friend and
co-workers in helping you to meet new men. Tell them you'll be
happy to come to their parties if they'll invite some of the
eligible men they or their friends know. And then, you should
have few parties, invite your friends and ask them to bring
along or invite some of their unattached male friends.
Work is generally an easy place to become acquainted with
eligible men, but there are any number of risks involved - such
as those that are already married. The important thing is to
make your self available - know what kind of man you want - and
then do what is necessary to meet him.
How And Where To Meet Eligible Men
by Tycoon2k
by Tycoon2k
How And Where To Meet Eligible Men
So you're a woman looking for a man... First off, you have to
"know" what kind of man you're looking for, and then go wherever
it is you'll most likely find that kind of man...
What kind of man are you looking for? It's a new world we live
in, and believe it or not, you can find whatever kind of man it
is you want! If you're looking for a husband, a meal ticket, a
sugar-daddy, a lover, a father, or a companion - there's a man
out there for you. The problem is, of course, to find the man
that has enough of "all the things you want in a man" to satisfy
you.
There are lots of eligible men available, and with just a little
bit of intelligence, there's no honest reason why any woman
wanting a man cannot find the man of her choice. The thing is,
as mentioned already - you've got to know what kind of man you
want, and where you'll most likely find him - and then, reach
for him.
Men are just like women - they want a woman they can belong to,
and call their own. People have to interact with other people in
order to maintain a healthy equilibrium; and men have to
interact with women on a personal basis in order to go on
living. These are undeniable facts relative to the nature of
human beings.
Most men have the same kind of shyness, inhibitions, and fears
of rejection that women have - the only difference being that
the male of our species has been trying to cope with these
feelings in regards to meeting women, a lot longer than women
have in regard to meeting men. But it's a new world - there's a
lot more women out looking for men - and a lot of men seem to be
caught up in their own problems, and unaware of the eligible
women around that might like to become acquainted with them.
Thus, it's now necessary for a woman to make the first move when
she spots a man that interests her and he doesn't make that
first move.
What we're saying is simply this: Nowadays, whenever and
wherever you spot a man that you'd like to get to know, and for
whatever reasons, he doesn't seem to notice you, for sure, you
should make that first move towards becoming acquainted. Say
you're at a dance and you spot a man that interests you, by all
means don't be hesitant to walk over and ask him if he'd like to
dance with you. Or should you be having coffee somewhere and you
spot a special man, simply tell him that you don't like being
alone and would he like to join you.
Really, there's honestly nothing out-of-line or brazen about
spotting a man that interests you, walking up to him, and
telling him you find him appealing enough that you'd like to
find out more about him. Most men will be flattered by your
attentions, and if they are the kind of man you "sized" them up
to be, they'll appreciate your breaking the ice for them. One
other thing to understand - women are almost always "looking
for" men while most men are where they are, doing what they are
doing, for any one of a million different reasons.
In essence, you meet eligible men by frequenting the places
you're most-likely to find the kind of man you want to meet. You
have to make yourself available. Then too, if you spot a man you
think might be one that you'd like to get to know better and he
doesn't make the first move towards the two of you becoming
acquainted, you should make that first move.
It's as simple as that. In most instances, the same fear and
shyness - maybe even embarrassment - you're feeling, is haunting
the man, and unless one of you makes that first move, another
opportunity will have slipped through your fingers. Don't be
afraid to walk right up to a man and tell him: You look as
though you're all alone - do you want to talk for a minute or
two...
We know of some women looking for men, perhaps because of an
inability to just walk up to a man and start talking or maybe
just because they have a flair for innovative approaches to the
idea, have had business cards printed up, and hand them out to
the men they see that look interesting to them. The wording on
the one that most appealed to us was as follows: Hello there...
Please forgive my intrusion, but you strike me as someone I
should know. My name is Mary Anderson, and if you've got a spare
minute or two, you might give me a call at 123-4567...
You've got to have it firmly in your mind, the kind of man you
want to meet. Then you've got to make yourself available in the
kind of places that kind of man is most-likely to frequent.
Most assuredly, when you search for such a man, you should look,
dress, and act according to what you feel will most appeal to
that type of man. All men notice a woman who looks good, so you
should do whatever is necessary to bring out your best features
- a little make-up in the right places, a new hairstyle, a few
figure-flattering clothes - and the kind of conduct that you
feel will appeal to your kind of man.
Now then, the easiest and surest way of meeting eligible men is
through the social activities of your local "singles" club such
as Parents Without Partners, Singles International, and
Servetus. Most such groups sponsor regular dances, dinner
parties, rap sessions, and any number of other activities
designed to bring divorced and/or single people together.
Lonely Hearts Correspondence Clubs are okay, but then.. meeting
someone via correspondence, and learning to love them as result
of what they write in their letters to you, is sometimes
disappointing and a hard situation to get out of when you
finally do meet them face-to-face.
Most of the Date-A-Mate services are okay, particularly those
that employ video tape interviews, but the prices you pay for
their introductions are beyond reason. Generally, the success
rate of these services - that of matching you with a man that
you end marrying, and staying married to him - is less than
10-percent. Some of them are just glorified "dating or escort"
services.
Attending church in search of an eligible man sometimes works
out, especially if the church sponsors dances, parties and group
outings. However, there's not as many eligible men going to
church in search of eligible women these days as there used to
be.
If you have an outgoing personality and enjoy the whole scene,
you can generally find lots of eligible men in the bars and
taverns. The thing is, you have to "find" the bars or taverns
that are frequented by the age group and kind of men that meet
your needs.
You'll find a lot of "more financially secure" men in the better
"motor inn" and hotel bars. About all you have to do is drop by
and join in all the action when there's a convention or
gathering of people from out of town in one of these places.
It's then that you'll find many of the "local eligibles" out on
the town, plus of course a lot of men from out of town who are
looking for women. In this kind of situation, most of the man
will make the first move and once you become acquainted, they
won't be in any big hurry to make any real commitments.
To find the action - where there's sure to be lots of eligible
men - look in your local newspaper... Look for advertisements
announcing square dances, neighborhood picnics, travel tours,
and of course, festivals or similar special events. When you go
to one of these activities, you've got to mingle with the people
there, keep your eyes open for a man that may be the one you're
looking for, and then - do your thing to become acquainted with
him. Once you spot a man you'd like to become acquainted with,
it's basically all up to you whether you do or don't.
Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible men is in
the evening classes at your local colleges. If you're not
familiar with their services, just give the college office a
call and ask them to put you on their mailing list for bulletins
and notices of up-coming classes being offered.
Most colleges are now offering any number of seminars, classes
and even short courses designed to help people rebuilding their
lives after a divorce. These classes are always well-attended,
and those that attend are eligible. One of the best ways of
meeting new friends while improving yourself.
Finally, and by all means, enlist the help of your friend and
co-workers in helping you to meet new men. Tell them you'll be
happy to come to their parties if they'll invite some of the
eligible men they or their friends know. And then, you should
have few parties, invite your friends and ask them to bring
along or invite some of their unattached male friends.
Work is generally an easy place to become acquainted with
eligible men, but there are any number of risks involved - such
as those that are already married. The important thing is to
make your self available - know what kind of man you want - and
then do what is necessary to meet him.
How And Where To Meet Eligible Men
by Tycoon2k
Sunday, January 14, 2007
5 Reasons To Try Online Dating
5 Reasons To Try Online Dating
By Jason King
Online dating is fast becoming one of the most popular industries on the internet. With this in mind there are still millions of single men and women from all over the world that haven’t taken the plunge yet. They probably don’t think it’s for them, or they don’t need to try it. Meeting someone online is easier then you think, and you could be sharing a conversation with someone you like shortly after creating your profile.
1 To increase your chances of meeting someone
When you join an online dating service you instantly advertise yourself in front of thousands of eligible singles in your area. If you live in a highly populated state this can go into the hundreds of thousands.
When you go out at the weekend looking for another single to meet and get to know you’ll probably see less than 20. After you take away the fact that you have to start guessing what 20 are the eligible singles you’ll probably be going home hoping you meet someone the following weekend.
2 You’ll save yourself some money
Continuing from the first reason, going out every weekend, and going home single can start costing a lot of money. You will get a months membership at any online dating service for less than one night out. With this you can go online as much as you want, and search the thousands of possible dates looking for just one that catches your eye. Chances are though you’ll catch the eye of another single, and get contacted before you need to throw out your net for a catch.
3 You get to know something about them before you contact them
Having the benefit of viewing everyone’s online dating profile before you contact them allows you some insight into them first. If their profile looks too good to be true it probably will be, and if it looks like they’re hiding too much you don’t need to contact them.
Finding some things out about someone first can only be in your favor. You can see what they want in a prospective date as well so you don’t waste your own time contacting someone who won’t be interested in you.
4 You’re sober in the comfort of your own home
Going out is fun, and so is having a drink, but this can lead to many regrets the next day for a lot of singles. After a few drinks your awareness and inhibitions start to disappear. When you have the safety of the internet between you and the person you’re trying to get to know you’ll be in much better control of your judgement. Every part of getting to know them will be set at your own pace.
5 Do you enjoy being single?
No one wants to be stay single forever. If your present methods of finding a partner aren’t working then online dating offers you a complete change of tactics.
When you do find someone special you’ll know that if it wasn’t for taking the plunge with online dating you never would have met them.
For more advice on online dating, and online dating service reviews visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jason_King
By Jason King
Online dating is fast becoming one of the most popular industries on the internet. With this in mind there are still millions of single men and women from all over the world that haven’t taken the plunge yet. They probably don’t think it’s for them, or they don’t need to try it. Meeting someone online is easier then you think, and you could be sharing a conversation with someone you like shortly after creating your profile.
1 To increase your chances of meeting someone
When you join an online dating service you instantly advertise yourself in front of thousands of eligible singles in your area. If you live in a highly populated state this can go into the hundreds of thousands.
When you go out at the weekend looking for another single to meet and get to know you’ll probably see less than 20. After you take away the fact that you have to start guessing what 20 are the eligible singles you’ll probably be going home hoping you meet someone the following weekend.
2 You’ll save yourself some money
Continuing from the first reason, going out every weekend, and going home single can start costing a lot of money. You will get a months membership at any online dating service for less than one night out. With this you can go online as much as you want, and search the thousands of possible dates looking for just one that catches your eye. Chances are though you’ll catch the eye of another single, and get contacted before you need to throw out your net for a catch.
3 You get to know something about them before you contact them
Having the benefit of viewing everyone’s online dating profile before you contact them allows you some insight into them first. If their profile looks too good to be true it probably will be, and if it looks like they’re hiding too much you don’t need to contact them.
Finding some things out about someone first can only be in your favor. You can see what they want in a prospective date as well so you don’t waste your own time contacting someone who won’t be interested in you.
4 You’re sober in the comfort of your own home
Going out is fun, and so is having a drink, but this can lead to many regrets the next day for a lot of singles. After a few drinks your awareness and inhibitions start to disappear. When you have the safety of the internet between you and the person you’re trying to get to know you’ll be in much better control of your judgement. Every part of getting to know them will be set at your own pace.
5 Do you enjoy being single?
No one wants to be stay single forever. If your present methods of finding a partner aren’t working then online dating offers you a complete change of tactics.
When you do find someone special you’ll know that if it wasn’t for taking the plunge with online dating you never would have met them.
For more advice on online dating, and online dating service reviews visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jason_King
Thursday, January 11, 2007
Finding Mr. Wrong: Using Background Checks to Say What Your Gut Feels
Finding Mr. Wrong: Using Background Checks to Say What Your Gut Feels
By Tony Cohn
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Under $20.00
It happens to all of us, one of our best girlfriends hooks with a total loser and falls for him, hard. No matter how hard you try to convince your friend to ditch her poorly chosen boyfriend, it is often hard to tell her exactly why you don't trust or like the new guy without causing an argument-think K-Fed and Britney.
So what can you do about this guy whom you know is just plain trouble? In the past, you have handled this situation by trying to beg your friend to dump him or just letting your friend find out on her own that her boyfriend is a loser. Often, your friend may perceive that you are attacking her new boyfriend without cause and your relationship may suffer. Ultimately, this may lead to your friend cutting off all contact with you and her peer group. All of these points must be taken into account before talking to your friend about her bad boyfriend.
Unfortunately, without any more evidence than your gut feeling, it may be unreasonable to expect your friend to break up with her boyfriend merely on your urging. However, with the emergence of online investigative web sites, you now have a solid weapon to use against bad boyfriends everywhere: the background check.
Background checks are a great way to determine if your gut feeling is just that or if you have a right to not like your friend's new guy. Though commonly thought of as a tool only for law enforcement officials, employers and other organizations, background checks are currently being used more by people who just want to know a little more about the pasts of other people. One of the best features of background checks is that they can be conducted anonymously, thus, your girlfriend will never even know that you wanted to learn more about her new guy. What exactly can you find out about someone by performing a background check? Surprisingly, a lot more information than you may have thought. In about a minute, most quality background check organizations can produce a report that gives you a pretty good portrait of someone's past including:
Age: Is he telling the truth?
Address(es) and Phone: Has he gone from city to city?
Real Property Ownership: Does he own his home or does he still live with mom?
Aliases: Does he go by any other names?
Possible Relatives: How come he never told you about his twin brother?
Death Index: Could he possibly have stolen someone's identity?
Marriages and Divorces: He's been married five times before? Is his divorce final?
National Criminal Records: Does he have a criminal history that he doesn't want anyone to know about?
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To conduct a background check, all you need is his name, phone number or social security number. Once you have collected this information, you can visit a people search web site like PeopleFinders.com to conduct your background check. Hopefully, with the results of your background check, you will be able to better help your friend see the true nature of her boyfriend, whether that is good or bad, with more than a gut feeling to back you up. Also, your friend will surely appreciate the time you took to carefully research her new boyfriend's past before passing judgment.
Founded in 2006, People Search News is a Sacramento, California based non-commercial online source for people search and people finder related news and information.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tony_Cohn
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By Tony Cohn
300 Fun Dates For
Under $20.00
It happens to all of us, one of our best girlfriends hooks with a total loser and falls for him, hard. No matter how hard you try to convince your friend to ditch her poorly chosen boyfriend, it is often hard to tell her exactly why you don't trust or like the new guy without causing an argument-think K-Fed and Britney.
So what can you do about this guy whom you know is just plain trouble? In the past, you have handled this situation by trying to beg your friend to dump him or just letting your friend find out on her own that her boyfriend is a loser. Often, your friend may perceive that you are attacking her new boyfriend without cause and your relationship may suffer. Ultimately, this may lead to your friend cutting off all contact with you and her peer group. All of these points must be taken into account before talking to your friend about her bad boyfriend.
Unfortunately, without any more evidence than your gut feeling, it may be unreasonable to expect your friend to break up with her boyfriend merely on your urging. However, with the emergence of online investigative web sites, you now have a solid weapon to use against bad boyfriends everywhere: the background check.
Background checks are a great way to determine if your gut feeling is just that or if you have a right to not like your friend's new guy. Though commonly thought of as a tool only for law enforcement officials, employers and other organizations, background checks are currently being used more by people who just want to know a little more about the pasts of other people. One of the best features of background checks is that they can be conducted anonymously, thus, your girlfriend will never even know that you wanted to learn more about her new guy. What exactly can you find out about someone by performing a background check? Surprisingly, a lot more information than you may have thought. In about a minute, most quality background check organizations can produce a report that gives you a pretty good portrait of someone's past including:
Age: Is he telling the truth?
Address(es) and Phone: Has he gone from city to city?
Real Property Ownership: Does he own his home or does he still live with mom?
Aliases: Does he go by any other names?
Possible Relatives: How come he never told you about his twin brother?
Death Index: Could he possibly have stolen someone's identity?
Marriages and Divorces: He's been married five times before? Is his divorce final?
National Criminal Records: Does he have a criminal history that he doesn't want anyone to know about?
500+ Love Making Techniques
To conduct a background check, all you need is his name, phone number or social security number. Once you have collected this information, you can visit a people search web site like PeopleFinders.com to conduct your background check. Hopefully, with the results of your background check, you will be able to better help your friend see the true nature of her boyfriend, whether that is good or bad, with more than a gut feeling to back you up. Also, your friend will surely appreciate the time you took to carefully research her new boyfriend's past before passing judgment.
Founded in 2006, People Search News is a Sacramento, California based non-commercial online source for people search and people finder related news and information.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tony_Cohn
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Sunday, January 07, 2007
Secrets to Attract Men
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Secrets to Attract Men
By Caterina Christakos
When I was growing up my mother always told me, "Just be yourself and men will like you," or "If he doesn't like you it is his loss." Sound familiar? Well it never felt like his loss. It felt like mine.
Perhaps you have wondered why women who might not be as pretty smart, talented or funny as you always seem to have dates on Saturday night, while you stay at home in front of the tube. The answer is one that you may have guessed - they know the secret of seduction.
This is a secret that has been passed down for ages from Queens to movie actresses, to current day divas. It is part of the reason why they have been able to attain and keep their titles.
What is this secret to attracting men? Well here is a hint - it has almost nothing to do with what they looked like. Cleopatra, for example, is one of history's greatest seductresses and yet from all accounts she was plain bordering on unattractive. No the secret has more to do with how they saw themselves and the world around them than how their physical attributes. Cleopatra believed that she was the most beautiful woman in the world and her belief was so strong that others began to see her that way, as well.
Let's face it physical beauty changes with the latest fad. We had Twiggy, Marilyn and now Kate Moss and Cindi Crawford. Each a different weight, hair color, eye color. But I bet they all had an image of themselves and the world around them that ended up with them on top and amazing men clamoring to be with them.
So what is the secret to attracting men? Well, it begins with envisioning yourself as a hot, desirable woman. Picture yourself the focal point of men's interest starting today - not when you lose ten pounds or get your teeth whitened or your nose straightened.
Next picture the type of men that you want to be attracted to you. Imagine them down to the last detail. What qualities should they have both physically and emotionally? Do you want a guy to cuddle with on the couch or one who constantly takes you out on the town. Visualize your ideal scenario.
Do just these two steps every morning for ten minutes and right before you go to sleep for ten minutes. Add more visualization time as you can throughout the day. The more you picture it, the more real it will become to you.
Start with this to gain confidence and to get rid of the "he would never be interested in me" mentality. Then once you have that firmly programmed into your brain you can start on the external aspects like how you look and what you could be doing to align yourself with your vision ( ex. getting off the couch on Saturday nights and getting out there where your dream man can find you).
Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach. For even more specific seduction strategies go to: http://www.seductiondiva.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Caterina_Christakos
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